“Comparing is Despairing” KOMO News Interview

by Yafa Crane Luria


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I was interviewed by KOMO News Radio host, Jennifer Harriman on the topic, Comparing is Despairing. We discussed the perils and pitfalls of comparing siblings, comparing families, and comparing kids to their parents.

Comparing, although sounding fairly benign, is another form of competition. When we compare two people, someone will come out looking better and someone will look worse. ADHD children do better when they’re recognized for themselves rather than being compared favorably or unfavorably to someone else. Comparisons can be confusing for kids that have vacillating self-esteem as many ADHD kids do, being used to criticism and to being misunderstood and underestimated.

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Kathy Slattengren September 28, 2010 at

I loved the points you made about the problems with comparing children to each other or to their parents. When someone tells my daughter she’s just like me … she doesn’t always take it as a compliment!


Margit September 28, 2010 at

Haha, I hear you, Kathy! And sometimes it makes kids wonder, “Will I end up like my mom/dad, or do I have any choice in the matter?”


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