I am frequently asked, “How are you so good at connecting with ADHD teens?”
First of all, I have been fascinated by teens since I was about 7 or 8 years old. They have their own music, their own clothes, their own rules, their own language, and I thought that was soooooo attractive. For me, being with teens was always like visiting a foreign country and I love to travel!
As I got older and passed through my own teenage years, I realized that I was quite comfortable sharing my own adolescent trials and tribulations without passing judgment on my young audience.
And, it has always been clear to me that the youth of today are our future leaders and that the most permanent way to make positive changes in the world is to support and guide our future leaders. So I became a teacher and school counselor.
Once I started teaching ADHD teens, it connected me to my own adolescence and helped me redeem my awkward puberty! I love that teens are raw; it allows me to get to the heart of things and invites me to be raw too – at least to a certain extent. Being real is something a lot of adults lose as we age. I want to keep that part of me and being around teens helps me do just that.
The British author E.M. Forster wrote a book called Howard’s End. I remember nothing about the book except for the quote at the beginning, “Only connect.” When I am with teens, that is my goal. I am willing to look foolish if it means that we will connect. I am willing to be honest and admit lack of knowledge or experience, if it means that we will connect. I am willing to share some of my doubts and fears, if it means that we will connect. My goal, my purpose, when I am with teens is to learn about them and to figure out how to best reach them. There is no point in talking if what you have to say goes in one ear and out the other.
How are you at connecting with ADHD teens?
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