Tips for Bringing a Step-Parent into Your Family

by Yafa Crane Luria

 

Step-Parenting is tricky. We are assumed to be horrible and mean when in fact, we are often scared and confused, yet very hopeful.

I have seen too many marriages fall apart because the parent chose the kids over the new spouse, or because the parent chose the new spouse over the kids. I’ve even had people quit coaching because the thought of being able to choose both the new spouse AND the kids was too overwhelming.

Divorce tears families apart in so many ways but a new marriage can bring healing beyond one’s imagination. It doesn’t have to be yet another earthquake in kids’ lives; it can be a new coming together and a healing adventure.

But step-parents need support from the bio-parents. They need to be reassured and the kids need to know that everyone in the family has value. Here are some sites to help you “put out the welcome mat” and invite love in.

Here’s an interview on Step-Parenting that I did with Jennifer Harriman or KOMO News Radio:

“The Step Stop” is a great site that a former client introduced me to. It’s for stepmoms and for their spouses.

“[Listen] to her when she shares her feelings about the situation, your children and any her other concerns. She isn’t criticising YOU when she does that, even if that’s how it feels to you. She is just trying to work it all out for herself and you can really help by simply listening.”

There’s also “Divorced Women Online” and “The StepFamily Center” (Check out “The 6 Don’ts of Being a Step-Dad”)

Know any other great sites?

Just scroll down and share your thoughts in the comments section. I love, love, love hearing from you.

xo, Yafa

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